Roger Gracie has spoken candidly about how he approaches his children's training, describing a method built on gentle consistency rather than rigid pressure. In a podcast interview, he outlined his day-to-day approach: "The same way that I press my kids — you got to train. You know, a lot of the times you prefer to stay at home watching video games, playing video games, watching TV, or doing something with your friends, then like, okay, I'll go train." He was quick to clarify the tone: "Not in a way that like every day forcing you have to train, like in a very soft way," adding that training even "once or twice a week" was enough to keep everyone engaged and the experience positive.
Roger also reflected on how his approach evolved after stepping away from elite competition. "When I was competing, I used to push them way harder because I wanted to push myself and I was like, okay, they need to do what I'm doing. So I used to push them a lot harder. I think now I'm older, I don't compete anymore. I think I grown a bit soft in a way, you know, in terms of like how much I push them. I push them a bit, but it's like, you know, then they need to push themselves too." The shift signals a coaching maturity — an understanding that internal motivation, once cultivated, outlasts any external pressure a parent or coach can apply.
His broader teaching philosophy carries the same emphasis on individualized development. In the same interview, Roger observed the full spectrum of learners he has encountered: "I've seen people super gifted that they will learn a move in a blink of an eye. Like everything you teach them, they can do it straight away. And I've seen people that really struggle to learn anything. But now, who wins?" On structuring instruction, he added: "You give them a structure for them to develop their own game because everybody's different, right? You know, you cannot mold people into your game. You have to give them, you know, the best structure they can, and then on top of that they can be as flexible as they want in terms of whichever way they want to go." It is within this philosophy — patient, adaptive, and rooted in the long view of development — that Tristan Gracie is learning the art.